Tuesday, November 4, 2008


Make it your priority today. That is all.

Monday, November 3, 2008


One thing I've been trying to work on for the past couple of months is to be a better friend. I've struggled for years to give time and effort to those that I consider good friends. I find myself ignoring emails, texts, facebook and myspace posts, and phone calls because I am either too lazy to respond or not in the mood to have a long conversation (which is where phone calls usually go).

I lived most of my life in Colorado Springs, but around 16, I began to move a lot; first to Oklahoma, back to Colorado Springs, then Pueblo and Keystone, and finally back to Oklahoma (3 different locales). All of those places were no more than two years, so developing solid relationships with people became tedious. Not to mention the aspects of people graduating, finding jobs, or going to grad school meant many friends left on their own accord. Moreover, 95% of them I would consider "convenient" friends - those that are your friend when you are a convenience to their lifestyle. I am guilty of this as well.

What could I do to either make new friends or strengthen the relationships I had with current friends? The answer is two-fold. First, I have to communicate and contemplate - answer the phone, reply to an email, and think about that person and their interests. Second, get that person to do the same - if they are not going to put in the effort, your hard work may be for not.

So far, I have worked on the first part, my part. I recently have been corresponding much more with my childhood bff Kevin Davis through Blogspot and general email. We grew up in suburban Colorado Springs as a couple of skateboard kids who enjoyed everything outdoors. College and life in general have led us to different geographical locations, but even after roughly 8 years of little communication, we still can talk, laugh, and debate as if we lived next door. My immediate goal is to visit him - plans are in the works for a January road trip to Michigan. Hopefully, it will become an annual event.

Kevin has the second part covered. When I was evaluating friendships and which ones I wanted to invest more time in, his was the first. He has never been convenient.

There a few other people that I hope to do the same with.

Saturday, November 1, 2008


I've been suffering writer's block for the past several months trying to establish my first blog entry. Like I've repeated to many others, I enjoy listening and conversing about other people's interests and struggles. I rarely feel that I have anything important enough in my life to blog about, and usually only involve close friends and family about important issues. With that in mind, I'll keep my first entry light. Hopefully, it will eventually stimulate meaningful posts in the furure.

My girlfriend and I live (together!, oh the horror!) about 4 blocks from a megaplex movie house here in DT Oklahoma City. Every few weeks or so we double-dip on a couple of flicks we normally would wait to see at the dollar theater. Last night we decided to watch Quarantine and Zach and Miri Make a Porno (ZAMMAP).

We usually don't care for horror flicks, because 95% of them suck. However, Quarantine was actually kind of fun and didn't take itself too seriously. Let's just say it made for a good Halloween treat, involving your staple blood and guts scenes along with fan favorite loud creepy noises and jump out of nowhere zombie ambushes.

Kevin Smith's ZAMMAP, on the other hand was a movie that made us question how desensitized we (me, her, society) have become to crude and vulgar humor. I'm not saying that I'm necessarily against it, but question how fast it has happened. If this movie were made 10 years ago, it most definetly would be rated NC-17. I saw enough weiners, balls, and boobies to satisfy my Cinemax addiction for a good 2 months (intervention to follow).

Is the desensitizing that is going on a good or bad thing?

I do want to say that if you can get passed the 120 f-bombs and nude scenes you will undoubtely love this, dare I say, romantic comedy. For all the Seth Rogan fans, you will not be disappointed.